STRATEGY AGAINST WOMEN
There is a secret men have to the strategy of child abuse that directly relates to controlling women. I have not heard any pundit or social commentator speak of the following - that the abuse of children goes beyond sexual gratification. It is, at base, part of the strategy to break down and control women and men when they are children, in order to modify their behavior when they grow up.
First of all, this abuse cannot easily happen in a matriarchal setting. It has to take place in secrecy and privacy. When matriarchy exists, with women all around providing care and protection of children, men cannot have their way. The nuclear family, the first step in abuse, separates the physically weak and places them with the predator, who is strong and ill intentioned. It takes women and children away from protection and puts them in an area of vulnerability. Thus isolated, the predator can have his way with the defenseless and the frightened.
But to get to my point. Is all this merely for the sake of sexual gratification or is there something more mysterious and sinister inside of it? Indeed, I see that there is a method to the madness of men. (As always, I apologize to those men who are righteous. If the shoe does not fit, don't put it on.) Let us take a strong, hard look at what happens in abuse and how it modifies the behavior of children as adults.
On a deep level of the unconscious what the man wants to do is destroy the independent strength of the child. The child is put into a position, when it cannot defend itself or make a decision, of bonding with someone who does not love it, but wants control. This control happens through breaking down the psyche of the child and wounding it for life. Even when the child grows up it has a bond, however evil, with the father, grandfather or uncle who chronically abused it. No matter how hard the child tries to forgive and forget, it has been programmed to have a link, a fear and a bond with a patriarch - a male parent - instead of a nurturing female parent. The child, in infancy and even in later years, cannot reason out of a psychological dilemma. It is out rightly hypnotic. An abused child forever sees a male as the one it has bonded with - however heinously - and an emotional fact has occurred that cannot be easily erased.
How does a child feel with its parents? Both the Mom and Dad are seen as Godlike figures of authority. The child also desperately needs love, which means psychological nourishment or affirmation. In the case of a benevolent Mom or Dad, this is provided. The child then is reared toward independence and liberty on its own two feet. It is free to make sane and logical decisions as soon as she/he grows up. The mind, the psyche, which was loved, nurtured and affirmed has a strong basis to face life with.
The child who has been sexually abused by males in the home is in a different place. This Godlike person or persons who abused it - usually Dad and it starts, average, at eighteen months - has created a heinous rather than a nurturing bond. Something unsavory has taken place but the child, at a young age, cannot know this. It can know physical pain as in being raped by a large organ into a small orifice, but it does not understand the psychology of it. The child feels pain and that is all. At a later age, say seven, eight or nine, a child might be able to understand the psychological ramifications of some of this, but not as an infant. During the abuse the child, even when pain is inflicted upon it, bonds with this evil Dad, and that bond is not broken when the child grows up and knows it was abused.
What is the strategy in all this? Beyond sex, it is patriarchy doing what it knows best - stealing, killing and destroying. It, as I said, destroys the independence of the child and makes the child see male instead of female (Mom) as authority (through a sick bond), and that prepares the child to live in a patriarchal world. In our world the male domination continues and the child has been prepped for it by abuse.
Once again as in the past I stress that the nuclear family is the hotbed of abuse for children and Moms, and the matriarchal setting, with many women around, is the safest and best place for women, children, and boys.
To recap what I have said, men abuse little girls and boys as a way of controlling them for a male domination world. It isn't only for sexual gratification. The culprit is patriarchy, the solution is matriarchy.
RASA VON WERDER
OCTOBER 7TH 2005