ON SITE, I TALK ABOUT THE NEED FOR WOMEN TO RELAX. IN OUR FUTURE WORLD, WITH WOMEN OUTSTRIPPING MEN IN EDUCATION, GETTING 200,000 MORE DEGREES THAN MEN YEARLY (IN FIVE YEARS ONE MILLION MORE DEGREES FEMME DEGREES AROUND TAKING JOBS) THE SHIFT WILL GO FROM MEN HOLDING THE BEST PAYING JOBS, THE MOST RESPONSIBLE JOBS, TO THE SHOES ON THE WOMAN. NOW THE WOMAN WILL BE THE BIG BREADWINNER AND HARD, RESPONSIBLE JOB WHERE MANY DECISIONS ARE AT STAKE. SHE BRINGS HOME THE BIG BACON, THE LITTLE MAN WILL BRING HOME PEANUTS COMPARED TO HER. THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN INSTANTLY, BUT OVER YEARS.

(I DID PREDICT HERE THAT CHILDCARE WILL NOT BE LEFT IN THE HANDS OF MEN FOR WHAT IS BECOMING OBVIOUS REASONS; MOLESTATION AND AT BEST, LACK OF COMPETENCY.)

NOW THE WOMAN WHO HAS THIS HARD, WELL PAYING JOB WILL NEED A RELAXING, NOT A DEMANDING MALE TO COME HOME TO. SHE DOES NOT NEED A BIG BABY WITH INFANTILE NEEDS WHO DEMANDS SHE TURN INTO A DOMME WHEN SHE COMES HOME AT NIGHT! I WAS A DOMME, AND YOU GET PAID BIG MONEY BECAUSE IT IS LABOR INTENSIVE. THIS IS NOT WHAT THE POWERFUL WOMAN OF THE FUTURE WILL BE WILLING TO DO. SHE WILL NEED A MUCH MORE TOGETHER MALE WHO WILL BE WILLING TO IN SOME DEGREE, SURRENDER TO HER NEEDS, WHICH ARE NOT ALWAYS SEXUAL.

IT IS A MALE FANTASY THAT WOMEN ARE RAGING SEX FREAKS JUST AS THEY ARE. WE HAVE BEEN FEEDING THEIR FANTASIES FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS. WOMEN IN SOME CASES, JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE. THEY WANT TO READ THE PAPER, DO THE INTERNET, WATCH TV, AND HAVE SOMEONE FETCH AND CARRY FOR THEM. SEND JOHN HUBBY TO THE STORE FOR GROCERIES, HAVE HIM MAKE DINNER AND KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN.

BUT TO HAVE THIS RAGING SEX FREAK WANT YOU TO DRESS HIM UP AS A GIRL AND POP HIM UP THE CAN WITH A DILDOE MIGHT NOT BE WHAT MZ CEO WANTS TO DO AT NIGHT FOR RELAXATION.

IF SHE HAS SUCH A GUY, SHE MIGHT PREFER TO SEND HIM TO A DOMME. BUT IF SHE HAS TO DO THAT TO MAKE HIM HAPPY, IS HE REALLY A GOOD HUSBAND? THIS IS WHAT I AM SAYING. THE NEW MAN WILL BE NEITHER THE TYPICAL 'REGULAR' GUY NOR WILL HE BE THE RAGING FEMDOM MAN - I DEFINED WHAT THIS MAN WOULD BE IN GENERAL TERMS, IN THE ARTICLE OF FUTURE OF MALE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS ON MY SITE:

	THE FUTURE OF MALE - FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS I Click To Read		THE FUTURE OF MALE - FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS II Click To Read

THIS NEW MAN WILL BE CHARMING AND HAVE SOCIAL SKILLS MEN DON'T HAVE TODAY. HE WILL BE ARTICULATE AND WELL VERSED IN THE HUMANITIES AND SUBJECTS OF INTEREST TO WOMEN. NO HE WILL NOT BE A GAY BLADE, TALKING ABOUT DECORATING AND RECIPES, BUT HE WILL BE A CONVERSATIONALIST AND LISTENING. SOMETHING MEN ARE WOEFULLY SHORT ON RIGHT NOW. NO 'STRONG SILENT' TYPES NEED APPLY BECAUSE WOMEN NEED COMPANIONSHIP. THE BEST COMPANIONS, THE MOST COMPETENT AT SUPPORT AND BACKGROUND WORK, WILL BE THE FUTURE IDEAL HUSBAND.

HEY, IT ISN'T ABOUT SEX! THE OBSESSION WITH SEX IS THE MALE PROBLEM, NOT THE FEMALE'S. STUDIES HAVE SHOWN THAT FEMALES PRETEND TO BE 'IN ESTRUS' TO KEEP THE MALE HUMAN INTERESTED 24/7 AND THERE IS A REASON FOR THAT. DOES NOT TAKE A ROCKET SCIENTIST TO FIGURE OUT THAT IN THE PATRIARCHAL WORLD WE HAVE TO BAIT HIM BY SEX. IN A DIFFERENT WORLD, WE CAN STOP PRETENDING.

...and therefore appropriate male in the regular world than femdom.........The femdom men, once they get you alone, and live with you day in day out, would make you want to kill yourself, if you know what I mean.

BEATA: The woman is instrumental in driving the evolution of society in a Modern Matriarchy. So women will socialize men to a great degree especially in relationships. Relationships are the foundation of every social institution. Femdom should never be the foundation of a relationship because such a relationship would not work. But it certainly has a place in Matriarchy and with the ascendancy of female leadership in the society, the male's submissive desires will be triggered more as he becomes more in tune with and aroused by powerful women.

LET US DEFINE FEMDOM. MEN IN THE FUTURE WILL ACCEPT DOMINATION AS NATURE. WHAT I AM OBJECTING TO AND SAYING IS COUNTER PRODUCTIVE IS THEIR ELABORATE SEXUAL SCENARIOS. ARE WE ON THE SAME PAGE?

RASA: It all comes down to this: need. Men in general are immature, weak and needy compared to women. But those in the domination scene are even needier, and many are passive-aggressive. They are demanding and that is the opposite of what you want! And if you think you can ignore their needs, think again. They become sullen, moody, depressed and totally uncooperative and if the needs are not met! They cannot function without their outlet. Some are fixated in childhood scenarios or pre-puberty, playing out fixations again and again. Others have compulsions with their fetishes, which they manage to hide, which would now be your responsibility. If you think, and believe, that those ads they write are for real, then I'll sell you a bridge. By 'intelligent, educated, docile male' seeking 'dominant woman to serve' really means,

BEATA: I have encountered such men. This is self-sabatoging behavior and may be indicative of an emotional and social deficit related to childhood and it is not relegated to just men with conscious masochistic desires either. But the bottom line is that women are pivotal to men overcoming these issues.

AGAIN, WOMAN AS NURTURER. DO YOU HAVE TIME FOR ALL THIS? DO YOU WANT TO BE HIS NURSE, THERAPIST AND SOCIAL WORKER? I DON'T. I AM SIMPLY SAYING THESE WHO ARE THE MOST NEEDY YOU WILL HAVE TO OVERLOOK AND KEEP MOVING TO THE ONES WHO ARE TOGETHER, TO SAVE ALL THAT WORK YOU HAVE TO DO ON THE BROKEN. BEATA, YOU ARE SAYING WE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THESE GUYS, ONCE AGAIN. WOMEN FOREVER ARE THE CAREGIVERS OF MEN. CAN WE STOP TAKING CARE OF THEM AND TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES AND THE PLANET, AND MOVE ON WITH THE STRONGER MALES? THE PSYCHOLOGICALLY MORE TOGETHER AND BALANCED MALES? SHALL WE BE HOBBLED BY THE SICK, BROKEN, MENTALLY EMOTIONALLY ILL MALES? AND WAIT AROUND FOR THEM TO GET WELL BEFORE WE CAN MOVE ON? NOT THIS LADY AND THAT IS NOT WHAT I WILL TEACH MY GRANDDAUGHTERS AND GREAT GRANDDAUGHTERS.

They cannot be resolved outside of a relationship. This is a good reason then for men to be submissive so that they can be taught how to participate in a relationship and meet the woman's needs and in the process have their needs met too. To the extent that the man is not able to do this he will not be able to develop himself and render himself undesirable to supreme females.

RASA: Dear lady, these men are seeking to 'serve you' in only the most limited way. They just might do for you what any regular man would do, if you serve them as well! It might not be a bargain - THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A SLAVE! Not only are slaves illegal, they don't exist. Every 'slave' or 'servant' out there will make you pay for whatever they give you, I assure you. Take all that they say with a grain of salt. Unless you are a professional dominant woman, my advise is to forget it.

BEATA: I learned that there is consensual slavery which is not the same thing as enforced slavery, human trafficking is an example. There are male slaves who serve women, but also there are "aspiring" slaves who are seeking to be owned by a woman. The ideal condition of slavery for a male is marriage in my opinion or some other legal contract. In any case, some men may fit better in an Amazonian Matriarchal community or a sanctuary rather than in a regular bonded relationship or marriage.

I HEARD ALL THESE CLAIMS BEFORE, AND WHEN YOU TEST THESE MEN OUT - NO SUCH THING. HOW MANY OF THESE 'SLAVES' HAVE YOU TESTED? THEY ARE EXTREMELY NEEDY, DEMANDING MEN MASQUERADING AS SLAVES.

RASA: Well then, who is out there? They are the guys who do NOT put ads in the paper or groups. They are just ordinary men, wishing that some great woman will see or notice them, because they might not be aggressive or macho. They maybe be slightly timid with women, or shy. They might tend to be obedient, or docile, but not sissies or wimps. They could be strong men, but true gentlemen. They would not be the type who DEMAND and AGGRESSIVELY post ads all over the place. They would be more likely to WAIT for a woman to find them, rather than actively seeking one out. Oh yes, they might be around in public, waiting and hoping. But since they do not have the raging sex needs of the 'femdom' guys, they do not solicit aggressively. They are the kind of men who can spend time alone, and might not be the best talkers, the most articulate or charming with women, but they are sincere and have good character traits. That is EXACTLY who you are looking for.

BEATA: I prefer the traditional approach. I do not think that woman should pursue a man at all.

WE WILL HAVE TO GO INTO DEFINITIONS NOW. BUT YOUR STATEMENT WOMEN SHOULD NOT PURSUE MEN GETS AN IMMEDIATE GUT REACTION THAT OF COURSE WOMEN PURSUE MEN ALL THE TIME.

If she is interested in a man, she could flirt to send out a signal of interest and let him take it from there.

THIS IS RESTRICTING THE WOMAN IN HER BAHAVIOR AND EVEN THE MAN, IF ONLY MEN CAN PURSUE, BUT WOMEN CAN ONLY FLIRT TO GET THE BALL ROLLING. THIS IS 1955 AGAIN. WE WERE TOLD THAT IN THE 50'S AND 60'S. 'HE HAS TO CALL' - DO NOT CALL HIM, DO NOT WIN THE GAME AT TENNIS. DEFER TO HIM, LET HIM MAKE THE MOVES, THE DATES, THE CALLS, DO NOT BE AGGRESSIVE.

I feel that it is very important for men to take initiative,

DO YOU HAVE A LOGICAL REASON WHY? IF MEN TAKE THE INITIATIVE, AND NOT WOMEN, THEN IT IS MEN WHO WOULD BE, AT LEAST IN THE BEGINNING, CHOOSING THE WOMEN. WHY ARE YOU RESTRICTING WOMEN? WOMEN DO CHOOSE MEN, ANYWAY, AND THEY ENGAGE THEM IN CONVERSATION, AND THERE IT STARTS. AND IF THE WOMAN WANTS THE GUY, SHE PURSUES HIM BY BEING FRIENDLY AND TALKING MORE, BY ENGAGING HIM IN PERSON, BY PHONE, BY INTERNET. I PUT NO RESTRICTIONS ON THE WOMAN DOING WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO.

...even men who desire to be in female-led relationships. Moreover, culturally speaking, men from other ethnic groups are typically socialized to be the initiators of dating and courtship, and this is a custom that the woman should reinforce because it sets up a dynamic for the male to attend to her needs.

FOR THE MAN TO BE THE PURSUER IS A TRADITION IN PATRIARCHY BECAUSE THE PURSUER MAKES THE CHOICE. SO A PREDATOR IS A PURSUER ALSO. HE DOES NOT WANT AN INTELLIGENT MATURE WOMAN, BUT A LITTLE GIRL. HE PURSUES A LITTLE GIRL. THAT IS HIS CHOICE. PATRIARCHY HAS TAUGHT MEN TO PURSUE BECAUSE THE PURSUER IS THE ONE WHO MAKES THE CHOICE.

A man should be active in pursuing a woman regardless if he is into femdom or not, the woman determines if the male is suitable or not and makes her decision accordingly. This method is consistent with female empowerment under a Modern Matriarchy.

YOU SAID ELSEWHERE THERE WERE MANY MODELS, NOT ONE MODEL OF EMPOWERMENT OR MATRIARCHY, AND NOW, ARE YOU SAYING THERE IS ONE WAY IN RELATIONSHIPS? I AM DISSAPOINTED.

In this instance, the desire for male submissiveness should not be equated with an expectation of passiveness.

AHA. PASSIVENESS IS NOT SOMETHING I AM PROMOTING. BUT WE TALK ABOUT PASSIVENESS, AND OK. YOU SAY NOW MEN SHOULD NOT BE PASSIVE. ARE YOU THEN SAYING WOMEN SHOULD BE? SO IF THE PURSUER IS THE AGGRESSOR AND THE RECEIVER PASSIVE, THEN WOMEN SHOULD BE PASSIVE? HOLD ON TO THE TRADITIONAL ROLE?

The male needs to be active in order to be guided so that his actions are consistent with serving the woman's needs. It is much more work and responsibility for a woman to have to constantly direct a man or tell him what to do.

THIS IS GETTING CONFUSING. DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO HAVE MORE OR LESS WORK? ALL THAT I AM SAYING IN THAT ARTICLE IS WOMEN SHOULD CHOOSE CERTAIN MEN AND WHERE IS THE BEST FIELD OR THEATER OF LIFE WHERE THEY WILL FIND SUCH A MAN - THE ONE WHO WILL SUIT HER NEEDS. YOU SEEM TO BE TAKING THIS ISSUE SOMEWHERE ELSE, LIKE THE ENTIRE WORLD OF SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS AND WHAT IS GOOD FOR MEN. IN MY OPINION WHAT IS GOOD FOR MEN IS WHAT IS GOOD FOR WOMEN. LET'S CONCENTRATE ON THE WOMAN, I SAY. THE GOODNESS COMING OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS AND SOCIETAL STRUCTURE AS LED BY WOMAN WILL THEN BE PASSED DOWN TO THE BENEFIT OF MEN. MY MIND IS ON THE WOMAN. WHAT IS GOOD FOR THE WOMAN WILL BE GOOD FOR THE MAN. I THINK IF ONE CONCENTRATES ON THIS ONE WILL ARRIVE AT MATRIARCHY.

RASA: We are taking the first steps to matriarchal liberty. Men have to change, women have to change. And you, the woman, mustn't feel guilty. It is better for them if they serve us than for us to serve them. It is as God wants it. And by having a man's support, we can get a lot more done in the world. The world needs us. It's time to stop serving the male and his lower needs. The world cries out for salvation, and this is done by the woman now attending to larger issues.

BEATA: This is true. I think that a fundamental shift needs to occur in female-male relationships. Certainly there are a broad range of methods that women can utilize in order to secure their freedom from the current patriarchal instructions. But this is why we have a Modern Matriarchy movement in place, which is starting to be implemented at the grassroots level.

I WOULD LOVE TO SEE WHERE IS THIS MODERN MATRIARCHAL MOVEMENT? I FIND LITTLE OF IT OUT THERE AND LITTLE SUPPORT, SCANT SISTERHOOD AND PALTRY PARTICIPATION. IT IS OPTIMISTIC TO SAY THERE IS A MOVEMENT WHEN ONE SEEKS FOR IT AND CAN FIND ALMOST NOTHING. ALL I FIND ARE THESE TWO ELEMENTS:

• FEMDOM CENTERED AROUND MALE NEEDS. MALE SEX NEEDS ARE AT BASE, WOMEN'S SAME OLE' NEED FOR MONEY. THEY USE THE WORD MATRIARCHY BUT IT IS A PSEUDONYM FOR FEMDOM. THIS IS NOT MATRIARCHY, IT IS DOMINATION PARLORS.

• ACADEMIC RESEARCH. AGAIN, THIS IS PARALLEL, SIMILAR, BUT THOSE I HAVE CONTACTED ARE NOT ON THE SAME PAGE. THEY ARE NOT PROPOSING MATRAIRCHY AT ALL, JUST HOLDING CONFERENCES ABOUT IT AND HAVE NARROW MINDED STILTED VERSIONS OF IT. I HAVE HAD NO SUCCESS WITH THEM AFTER I REACHED OUT TO THEM.

PLEASE POINT OUT TO ME ANY REAL GRASS ROOTS ORGANIZATIN THAT HAS ANYTHING GOING THAT IS REALLY PRO MATRIARCHY AND NOT DOING FEMDOM FOR MONEY. THE CLOSEST THING I CAN THINK OF ELISE SUTTON, BUT SHE IS WORKING FOR MONEY. YES THERE ARE A FEW FEMDOM WOMEN OUT THERE WHO HAVE GREAT IDEAS, BUT THEY ARE TIED TO FEMDOM AND NOT WORKING FULLY ON MATRIARCHY. THIS DOES NOT MAKE THEM BAD PEOPLE, BUT IT MAKES THEM LESS THAN FULLY COMMITTED DUE TO LACK OF TIME AND WITHOUT TIME (OH, HOW MUCH WE NEED TIME) THERE IS NO FULL COMMITMENT TO MATRIARCHY.

PRIOR TO BEATA COMING UPON THE SCENE, THE ONLY PERSON WORKING 'FULLTIME' ON MATRIARCHY BESIDES MYSELF I FOUND WAS WILLIAM BOND. THEN BEATA CAME ALONG AND IT SEEMED WE HAD THREE. BUT WHERE ARE THESE OTHERS? FROM WHAT I HAVE SEEN, THIS MOVEMENT IS BITS AND PIECES AND PEOPLE HAVING BITS AND PIECES OF THE VISION, BUT NOT THE WHOLE PICTURE. TO ME, IT IS IMPROVING BUT STILL, QUITE RETARDED.

Interpersonal relationships between women and men are one of the chief areas where Matriarchy can begin to take root.